in trouble
I called up my sister to wish her a happy birthday. I had left a message on her blog, that linked to my other medical blog (which I rarely update), which she brought up. Somehow, I mentioned that that blog wasn’t my real blog.
Oops.
Now, she’s begging for the address, and soon my whole family will be over here. Which I mind and don’t mind at the same time.Opening the blog up to the Plethora was the first hard step, so I’ve gotten used to having RL friends reading. But, I don’t know, it’s so hard exposing myself. I mean, I still have never directed Chris to my blog. He knows about it, and I know that claidheamhmor and melancthe had told him that he needed to start a blog and get into the LJ thing, but I’m not sure if he ever read mine.Of course, now he’s too busy to browse the internet, so I can talk all kinds of smack about him. And I’m afraid that it would stilt my carefree writings having family here and I’d slowly drift away from LJ. It’s nice to have a place where I write without thinking how it’s going to be interpreted.
So of course, this means it’s poll time.
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I don’t think you write or post anything here that’s not something you’d want your family to see, but I could be wrong.
I know my mom knows about and probably reads my LJ but we both pretend that’s not the case, and I friends lock a lot of things. I really don’t want people in RL to find out, mostly because I’m sure the mocking would be incessant. (And because of the kind of fiction I write.)
Do what feels right.
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Hmm. Interesting. Personally, if any family members wanted to read my blog, I’d tell them it was private, ie ‘girl talk.’
I can’t imagine any ‘RL’ people (other than you–I met you~:) ) I’d show my blog to other than maybe one.
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I… My “online life” has been a source of much confusion and is very difficult to explain. When I say “real life friends know” I mean mostly that one of my best friends is somewhat aware I post/read around online beyond the blogs my best friends and I have set up to keep in touch at college and the online/fandom things that she and I participate in together, and things. No one from RL is friended on this journal and though I’ve been tempted to tell some people, I never have and doubt I will. My family…it would take too long to explain, but no for me, for a great variety of reasons. I think I tend to be…more specific/explicit about things I personally don’t want to tell a lot of people than you do, though, generally? *shrug*
I don’t really know what to say. Your situation is quite entirely different from mine (obviously…my age having not a terribly tiny amount to do with this, of course) – my vote on the last one goes to the “hedge” or the “mirror blog” if you really are uncomfortable with the idea of more people reading…but whatever you are honestly most comfortable with, really. 🙂
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My brother and sister have Myspace and I have an LJ blog. I don’t have to worry about them dropping in on my blog because they know that all they’d find there are memes or stuff about Doctor Who through my flist primarily. LJ is one of the reasons why I don’t have Myspace which I’ve said I’d join but never did. I have a couple of RL friends that know about my LJ but I don’t mind them reading much either.
In your situation I would suggest filters especially if it makes you feel a bit more comfortable. I can totally understand the idea of drifting away from LJ and feeling like you have to edit your journal. But yeah do what you believe you’d be most comfortable with. Good luck!
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This is an interesting dilemma. As you know, my sister, Sarah, has an LJ and is “friended” on my blog. However, I have used filters recently to prevent her from reading a few of my posts. I’ve let it slip to a couple of other family members that I have an LJ, but they’ve never asked to see it, and I wouldn’t let them see it, if they did. My LJ has occasionally been a rather major point of contention between me and Paul. He doesn’t understand why I won’t let him see it because he thinks that he should know anything that I would tell my close friends (I tend to VEHEMENTLY disagree). I’ve since gotten it through to him that it’s better for him and our relationship, if I have this spot where I can be completely open about my feelings and get out my frustrations (although now I’m no longer writing much here, if at all).
I guess, in your case, I would be hesitant to tell my sister how to locate the LJ. I think you are quite open on here sometimes about your fears and worries, and I do worry that your family would stifle that, if you knew they read it. What you could do, if you don’t want to refuse to tell her, is mass update your past entries (if you have a paid account you can do that) to protect them from her or your family’s eyes… and then filter like crazy. But, if I were you, honestly, I wouldn’t tell her… I’ve often wished I hadn’t told my sister. Just my 2 cents…
Hey, thanks for the advice. I’ll reply more in a bit, but do you happen to have Ali’s address? I have one from a couple of years ago, but she just moved, so I don’t think I have the new one.
Thx.
Nevermind. Found it on her journal.
(10815 115th Court NE, APT A306
Kirkland, WA 98033 if you needed it as well)
Screening these now…
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Hi you!
I’ve missed you this morning, with like, five minutes! *cries* How are you?
I miss you!
Ellie
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About half my LJ friends are people I know in rl, including my sister. On the other hand, I’m pretty choosy about which friends I hand out the address to – not so much as a privacy thing but because I write about geeky niche subjects and not everyone would appreciate that. I would say, if your family aren’t the sort who would enjoy your blog if it wasn’t yours, steer the conversation gently away.
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If you aren’t comfortable with it, then wait until she forgets about it. That’s my opinion.
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I think it’s perfectly okay if you don’t want to share your blog with your family.
My husband knows I keep journals/blogs for various reasons, and he’s read some posts, but he’s not really online. My parents and some of my friends know about the blog(s), too. But I think most of them don’t really read it.
I’m using filters all the time, so what’s public on my personal journal is probably only 1/3 of what I post.