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21st June 2005

Help! How do I get rid of my neighbors??

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I’ve started writing a longer updating post thingy, but ti’s taking forever, and I really need some good advice.

So here’s the back story:

I live in a pretty crappy neighborhood. It’s not terrible drug slum kind of place, but it’s not much better than that. the rent’s relatively cheap and since I’m the poor student, it works. I’ve gone through really bad neighbors–the drug dealers upstairs (nice girls actually–the company they kept though)–freaky ones (upstairs Jim who would sit on the porch all day and smoke–and question any body who came to visit. he was my private watch dog).

So that brings me to my current neighbors. They’ve lived here for about a year, a guy with stringy hair, his girlfriend with a mullet, and his mother–and I guess the cold weather kept them inside, because now… Now I’ve got one guy without an eye who sits outside all day long, asking me questions. Last night, I’ve discovered that somebody has moved sleeping bags under my window and is sleeping there–at least one, there’s probably more. They were cutting hair on the sidewalk today. And to just add that final straw, some random woman was sitting on my porch smoking cigarettes when I came home from volunteering.

So here’s the thing: I am extremely nonconfrontational. Nothing gives me more fears than trying to approach somebody to get them to stop behaviors (expect in a doctor’s office–I have all the power there and can say “you need to stop smoking” with authority). I realize that I need to talk to my manages, but I have no idea what to even say–and should I try to talk to the neighbors first?

Have any of you gone through anything like this? Advice on what to do/what to say? Because right now, I’m just a little bit freaked out–and am actually considering moving–which I have time nor money to do. And I hate moving.

Help!

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  • Man, I hate neighbors. Why do they always have to do stuff like that?

    I’m really nonconfrontational too. Common wisdom says talk to them first, but I’ve never had that work. You could try, I guess — “This space is mine, keep out,” “Could you guys sleep inside?” or “I do shift work, could you keep the noise down outside?” but it sounds like stuff the landlord should know about, assuming that’s who you were going to go to. Whether the landlord does something is a different thing altogether.

    I’ve moved because of bad neighbors before (gangbangers who used my balcony, plus other problems). Sometimes it’s the only thing you can do. My sympathies.

    • admin says:

      Thanks. I really really wish that I could get some normal neighbors.

      They ran the sprinklers tonight, so at least the sleeping thing has been delayed for one day. And I think tomorrow, I’ll be moving the chair and the cigarette butts from my porch, and leaving a note. I’m better with notes. It’s still passive/aggressive, but there’s some confrontation to it.

      I don’t want to move–I’m going to be moving in a year. Even if I stay here for residency, I’ll finally be making money and could afford a better place, so I’ll be getting out of here. So i was really hoping to just stick it out, but now. Man, I wish I could find someway of getting them evicted!

  • Julia,

    I’d say talk to the neighbors first, and then if things don’t get better, talk to your apt. manager.

    Take the bull by the horns, so to speak. Don’t let them take advantage.

    (Hugs)
    ~Donna

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